If you are complaining within the first month of being on this team

[radness]

'If you are complaining within the first month of being on this team,

'This team is not the right fit for you'.

Said the travel ball coach who has been coaching travel ball for 15 years.
Including experience 12 years of that time always placing a team at pgf Nationals Premier div. who competes and plays on the final two days of the tournament.

How many folks would be astonished if the coach just looked at a parent and said
that
instead of having a discussion about what the complaint is.

How many people would have eye opening jaw dropping reaction?
How many of dfp understand this approach?

 

[YoungBuck]

Lots of 'leaders' get results at any cost. I can think of one in the news on the world stage at the moment.

 

[Gambler Bob]

IMO this is what the coaches statement means. The coach believes that this girl is not one of the top 6-7 players on the team. There are 10 other girls that want this other girls spot on this high level team. The coach would rather give a different player a spot on the team, than listen to parent complaints from a player that does not make a big difference in the teams performance. This is an easy attitude to have when the club you coach for has the right name, and there are girls lined up to play for the team. My guess is that this conversation is handled differently if the same issue came from on of the top 2 players on this team.

 

[Strike2]

Whatever the reason for the complaint or however valid, it's a true statement.

That said, the better the player, the less likely the parent is to get that response.

 

[Bullseye]

These top teams tend to carry higher rosters. Those who have paid attention to the status of teams in their community and get an opportunity to to be on the roster learn quickly whether or not they are capable of earning a spot keep trying to earn that spot while competing with the team. Concur with coaches approach. If family is complaining already there is the greater chance they don't have the backbone necessary to compete at the level these players will go to play in college.
That's not to say they can't develop the backbone necessary. It is to say that if they were complaining within the first month of being on a team like this then they are still learning by hardknocks and will have to figure it out on another team.
If they don't figure out earning a spot they'll take their complaints to another team.

 

[Vertigo]

Has the parent actually been complaining? If so, then they should have done their research and honestly looked at their kid’s abilities before having their kid join this level of a team.

If the coach just approached the parent and said this unprovoked, then it’s a different story and questions need to be asked.

 

[Catdad]

It’s basically saying “I don’t like hearing you complain.”
Could have been complaining to the other parents and it got back to the coach.
And imo there’s a lot to be said for that. Parents talk and gossip, the girls listen or pick up on it.
I’ve seen it in other sports. A college football coach near me recently was fired or quit (or “left to spend more time with his family “) because some of his players parents got on social media to rip on him after losses…or so I’ve heard. Poisoned the whole team’s mindset

 

[Chad504boy]

'If you are complaining within the first month of being on this team,

'This team is not the right fit for you'.

Said the travel ball coach who has been coaching travel ball for 15 years.
Including experience 12 years of that time always placing a team at pgf Nationals Premier div. who competes and plays on the final two days of the tournament.

How many folks would be astonished if the coach just looked at a parent and said
that
instead of having a discussion about what the complaint is.

How many people would have eye opening jaw dropping reaction?
How many of dfp understand this approach?

It's funny cause it's true. And it has nothing to do with a parent's complaint is legit or not. obviously, coach thinks differently or has other plans than parents had envisioned.

 

[Rolling Hard]

" other plans than parents had envisioned."
Parents shouldn't envision, they should ask questions.

If the parent is complaining within the 1st month, then either they didn't ask enough questions before joining the team or they were lied to when asking the proper questions. Somebody dropped the ball. When I asked what role, you see my DD playing on this team, I have had 2 different coaches tell me something along the line of she will have to work her way into line up, utility player coming off the bench. I appreciated their honesty and looked for another team.

 

[erniekru]

My first reaction is why would a parent complain to the coach? Coaches speak with their actions.. From my DD's experiences on these types of teams, if you start struggling and there's a player behind you in the depth chart, well she's going to start rotating in. If she performs, then she becomes the starter. Coach doesn't need to tell you what is going on, his actions let you know what is going on.

To me it's a little like "live by the sword, die by the sword". The teams that DD has been on encourage competition and "taking" the position, backup girls in the rotation are given plenty of opportunities to prove themselves, but the starters absolutely have the job.

If a parent isn't happy, why use your words?? Talk to your DD and either buckle up for a bumpy ride while you see if she can take the position or start looking for another team. Let your actions do the talking.. In my observations, the dialog between parents and coaches is just placation and the coach is going to do what the coach is going to do. Same with the parents.

Just my opinion and DD's experiences