Influence and making a decision are two different things!
To that coaching influence topic, a few examples people encounter all the time~ There are *many *scenarios people complain about bad coaches. That influence of the coach could truly be split between good and bad. Generally people who are coaching are not family counselors with skill sets towards counseling families and their children. From that, many coaches/other people's parents, don't have the communication skills or wherewithal to understand situations that are going on with kids. Particularly other people's kids.
Also there are people that will want the kids parent to handle it. Because it is someone else's kid.
Then add there are some people/parent/coaches who will handle things completely opposite of how a family would have wanted it handled for themselves. AKA creates more conflict.
Then of course, parent goggles, where it really takes somebody else to point out to the parent hey there's an issue. That can be from a coach, anybody else, or Santa.
Find it is peculiar to read people skip the point of connecting with the fact parents are the primary adult for these children!
( what happened to the word parent?) After all,
it is their kid, their money, and their time what they do with their children.
That is why I said they/parent/family make the *decision.
Have been involved in mentoring players for multiple decades. Have seen it . I understand that point. Again never said coaches couldn't influence a situation.I'm with @cvsoftball . You are correct about that role, Rad, but a good coach (and a good teacher) will help that player realistically appraise their role and identity as a player and, more importantly, as a person.
To that coaching influence topic, a few examples people encounter all the time~ There are *many *scenarios people complain about bad coaches. That influence of the coach could truly be split between good and bad. Generally people who are coaching are not family counselors with skill sets towards counseling families and their children. From that, many coaches/other people's parents, don't have the communication skills or wherewithal to understand situations that are going on with kids. Particularly other people's kids.
Also there are people that will want the kids parent to handle it. Because it is someone else's kid.
Then add there are some people/parent/coaches who will handle things completely opposite of how a family would have wanted it handled for themselves. AKA creates more conflict.
Then of course, parent goggles, where it really takes somebody else to point out to the parent hey there's an issue. That can be from a coach, anybody else, or Santa.
Find it is peculiar to read people skip the point of connecting with the fact parents are the primary adult for these children!
( what happened to the word parent?) After all,
it is their kid, their money, and their time what they do with their children.
That is why I said they/parent/family make the *decision.
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