They have to learn that freshman aren’t going to play because they as good as the juniors and seniors. A freshman has to be significantly better.
As I said in my original post, at the parent's meeting before the season started the HC said there are freshmen (DDs) who should be playing varsity and upperclassman who should be playing JV, then said he is playing all of his nine returning players from last year. So he even stated outright that they deserve to be on varsity, but that is not what he did.
When did I say I complained to the coach?He's made several statements of how his DD is better than the older girls. It’s clear he’s expecting significant playing time over them. He doesn’t have to complain to the coach. There’s enough of it on here, in front of his kids and to other parents. He’s made multiple statements about his daughters not wanting to be there. That in itself shows a lack of maturity.
I said DDs do not feel honored to sit on the bench and watch girls, who the HC himself said should be playing JV. DDs watching the varsity team play, making sometimes ten errors in a game, does not fill them with any sense of honor.
That may have been your experience, but that does not mean every other situation is identical to yours. I never said either DD was on the best team. One is on a showcase team, the other is on a B-level team. I certainly never said they have the best coaches.Yes, I’m making assumptions. It comes from experience. I’ve seen and heard so many freshman parents complain about the same thing. They’re on the best travel team with the best coaches. The juniors and seniors are inferior.
DD’s HS coach played D1, was an All-American, won a national championship and went on to coach 20 years at the D1 level. Freshman parents would come in and still say she wasn’t qualified!
What does this have to do with my situation?
Time to be blunt. Your kids aren't starting varsity for one of two reasons and possibly both. They're not that good, or you're being a pain in the butt and coach is taking it out on your kids. It's time to back off.
Again, making grand assumptions, without any basis for knowing what is going on. Am being a pain in the butt? I have not talked to the coach at all. I have no interest and see no value in talking to him since his mind is set, regardless of the level of ability, he played the upperclassmen.
If we disagree, fine, but making assumptions about the situation, does not further a discussion and to me seems more counterproductive than helpful.