Obbay obviously cares and feels he let the girls and parents down. I have had the same restless nights many times after a tough loss. Sure its a game, but I am sure Obbay wanted the win or tie more for his team than for himself. We had an arch rival in our league that had beat us for three straight years. The last lost that we had to them was one in which they came back from three runs down to win in the bottom of the last inning with my DD pitching so I know how you feel and sympathize.
I don't think I implied he didn't care and yes I have replayed games trying to find where I/We lost it and then my wife pointed out that the kids didn't lose sleep over it so I should try not to as well. Reflect on the game, make some notes spend some additional BP time with the lower half of your order so you can manufacture a run when you need one and move on.