I am amazed at the number of people that don't secure their Facebook page. But, most teens around here, don't use FB, anymore.
I am amazed at the number of people that don't secure their Facebook page. But, most teens around here, don't use FB, anymore.
Apparently all of this did you no good if your AC left with 4 girls. In other words your filtering process is flawed somewhere. I still think you are holding 13 and 14 year old girls to accountable for things they may not fully grasp yet and they should be given an opportunity. They aren't junior and seniors, they are 7th and 8th graders.
Once their parents began using it, Facebook became a lot less cool. Check out Instagram and Tumblr.Cmon dont use FB?? Whats this world of teens coming to?? LOL
Or maybe you just haven't found them yet!! LOL
Unfortunately for the player a crazy parent can poison a team pretty quickly so coaches are understandable leary of these kids. May or may not be fair to the player but if I'm volunteering my time to coach, the less crazy parent drama the better as far as I'm concerned.
Wow! So, now a coach looks on facebook to decide who gets to play? On field behavior, athletism, and desire to be the best is what should dictate who plays. Who do some of you people think you are? You are judging kids based on their parents and their friends. If you feel guilty about doing it then you know it is wrong, if you don't feel guilty, you should. Kids do dumb things, we did when we were their age. The difference is we have social media and other avenues so nothing happens without everyone knowing about it. The most perfect part about the game is that the game doesn't care who you are, who your parents are, how much money you have, or any other social/economical identifiers. It's how you play the game. Coaches can inspire at risk youths and mentor them and they should! Not turn them away because their second cousin is a friend on facebook and she has had problems. I am not saying take kids with bad attitudes or drug habits, if their on field behavior is ok let them play. If their parents cause problems you will know in a game or two and deal with it then. Don't judge a kid until they have had their opportunity. You can be the coach that helped a child, or just another person that didn't give them a fair shot.
I’d be a little eerie about snooping in the personal life of under-age persons. I know all the social media avenues are open to the public, but it doesn’t mean these kids are expecting their coaches, teachers and whoever else (outside of their family) are actually “interested” in checking out their personal life. Your players could lose a lot of friends and trust from their friends if they know coaches are checking up on their facebook activity. And how will a player act towards you if they find out you’re checking up on them?
And what are your criteria going to be for “unacceptable” behavior? Whatever it is, it is probably drawn from your own personal values and upbringing; which could also be questionable. Or will you have a list of rules of things you cannot do outside of the team? These are questions you need to ask yourself so you’re not in a position of comparing the outside activity between two or three kids and trying to decide who was inappropriate and subject to discipline.
If checking up FB activity is going to be a policy, then I would let every player and parent know of your intentions, and what kind of activity is open to discussion and possible discipline. Otherwise I would shy against it.
If you end up with some bad attitudes and kids with some social issues it’s up to the manager & coaching staff to create a positive and enjoyable environment for all (kids & parents alike); and an environment that could help those who need a place to possibly work it all out and help better themselves.
One last thing…if you’re going to check Facebook then you better not forget about…
Gaia
Formspring
MySpace
Tumbler
And probably the one most forget about…YOUTUBE! Folks and kids now have their own You-Tube pages….and it's not all pretty!
When I need to check on my kids I use the following…
Acoustic Mirrors
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And of course the Rumor Mill.
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One last comment...if things have been fine over the years without checking up on them....then why start now? I mean...has it really been that bad? Have some of your players really fallen off that bad and been such a detriment to the team that you can't coach and function as a softball team anymore? Probably not.
Good Luck with it all.