- Apr 21, 2010
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Any advice??
My husband and I started a 10U Travel Softball team. We aquired kids we coached on my daughters community team, and friends. My daughter's best friend(at the time)parents were undecided, she was a good little lefty pitcher and our daughter was coming around. We had a pretty good team, we won almost every 10U tournament we entered mostly open A-B. since we had such a good group of kids and parents(first mistake) we decided to not have tryouts and just move up to the 12U with the same kids, doing the same types of tournaments and a couple A's to challenge the girls. That is when it all started.
The lefty's dad started worrying about doing A tournaments, then started making negative comments on the sidelines, then continued approaching the other parents judging every little thing we did.( Funny when we were winning the year before we were the greatest coaches going) He then started discussing these same issues he had about everything, in front of his kid and her friends that were on the team.
The kids would come to our practices with chips on their shoulders, talking back, fooling around rolling their eyes. When we tried to correct them,They even went home and said that I threw a ball at one of them. Come to find out the one child who was a follower refused to lie and told the truth, that it wasnt true.(we never received an apology).
So we thought we moved on. Went to a couple of tournaments and on the last one, the lefty and 2 others (whose parents became friends as well) brought funky sunglasses to the tournament and were asked not to wear them warming up. The mouths were going and attitudes flying. They even went as far as a huttle in the dugout to plan what they would do next.
They purposely did things in the game that practically threw the whole game. During warm-ups my husband let them know this carrying on has to stop and kicked a softball bucket. After the game, my husband called them together at the end to ask them what that display in the field was( these kids were out of control and my husband was at wits end). This was the worst. It had been going on for weeks and it was totally the last straw(he even went to the lefty's father weeks prior letting him know she was being disrespectful at practice and the father said he would talk with her)so when the girls gathered a the end of the game, my husband asked what H@% was that?(not making excuses for him but he never curses)Of course the lefty's father wasnt at the game.
My husband stated to "all the girls" not to single out the disrespectful ones that whoever wanted to continue to play softball on this team to be at practice. These 3 girls went crying to the parents and we never heard from them even after practice. The one mother who's daughter was just a follower had the courtesey to call to say her daughter didnt want to play at this level any more and was sorry it didnt turn out better...Needless to say these 3 left us hanging for an A nationals.
We scrambled around to get any players. The lefty's father went and bad mouthed us to everyone and anyone he talked to, Trying to get our team to fold so that my daughter wouldnt have any where to play. So another player on the team (pitcher) that did come to Nationals was rude and distant. When it was her turn to pitch she rolled pitches in(purposely)embarrassing the team and herself.
I cant tell you how hurt we are by all of this knowing this lefty and my daughter have been best friends since kindergarten? My husband seems to think the father was getting a little jealous of our daughter's pitching(why I dont know) we always had the lefty as our no. 1 and tried to start her every game, but then she would complain her arm hurt(which her father probably wasnt aware) Needless to say my daughter really doesnt know the whole story, and her and the lefty are cordial.
What is happening to parents? They are creating monsters or quite the little princesses, by just accepting everything they are told. When I was younger and an adult, teacher or coach stated I was acting up or did something wrong, my parent came right too me and would punish me for being disrespectful.
My husband and I started a 10U Travel Softball team. We aquired kids we coached on my daughters community team, and friends. My daughter's best friend(at the time)parents were undecided, she was a good little lefty pitcher and our daughter was coming around. We had a pretty good team, we won almost every 10U tournament we entered mostly open A-B. since we had such a good group of kids and parents(first mistake) we decided to not have tryouts and just move up to the 12U with the same kids, doing the same types of tournaments and a couple A's to challenge the girls. That is when it all started.
The lefty's dad started worrying about doing A tournaments, then started making negative comments on the sidelines, then continued approaching the other parents judging every little thing we did.( Funny when we were winning the year before we were the greatest coaches going) He then started discussing these same issues he had about everything, in front of his kid and her friends that were on the team.
The kids would come to our practices with chips on their shoulders, talking back, fooling around rolling their eyes. When we tried to correct them,They even went home and said that I threw a ball at one of them. Come to find out the one child who was a follower refused to lie and told the truth, that it wasnt true.(we never received an apology).
So we thought we moved on. Went to a couple of tournaments and on the last one, the lefty and 2 others (whose parents became friends as well) brought funky sunglasses to the tournament and were asked not to wear them warming up. The mouths were going and attitudes flying. They even went as far as a huttle in the dugout to plan what they would do next.
They purposely did things in the game that practically threw the whole game. During warm-ups my husband let them know this carrying on has to stop and kicked a softball bucket. After the game, my husband called them together at the end to ask them what that display in the field was( these kids were out of control and my husband was at wits end). This was the worst. It had been going on for weeks and it was totally the last straw(he even went to the lefty's father weeks prior letting him know she was being disrespectful at practice and the father said he would talk with her)so when the girls gathered a the end of the game, my husband asked what H@% was that?(not making excuses for him but he never curses)Of course the lefty's father wasnt at the game.
My husband stated to "all the girls" not to single out the disrespectful ones that whoever wanted to continue to play softball on this team to be at practice. These 3 girls went crying to the parents and we never heard from them even after practice. The one mother who's daughter was just a follower had the courtesey to call to say her daughter didnt want to play at this level any more and was sorry it didnt turn out better...Needless to say these 3 left us hanging for an A nationals.
We scrambled around to get any players. The lefty's father went and bad mouthed us to everyone and anyone he talked to, Trying to get our team to fold so that my daughter wouldnt have any where to play. So another player on the team (pitcher) that did come to Nationals was rude and distant. When it was her turn to pitch she rolled pitches in(purposely)embarrassing the team and herself.
I cant tell you how hurt we are by all of this knowing this lefty and my daughter have been best friends since kindergarten? My husband seems to think the father was getting a little jealous of our daughter's pitching(why I dont know) we always had the lefty as our no. 1 and tried to start her every game, but then she would complain her arm hurt(which her father probably wasnt aware) Needless to say my daughter really doesnt know the whole story, and her and the lefty are cordial.
What is happening to parents? They are creating monsters or quite the little princesses, by just accepting everything they are told. When I was younger and an adult, teacher or coach stated I was acting up or did something wrong, my parent came right too me and would punish me for being disrespectful.