- Dec 20, 2012
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I think there is a huge difference between living vicariously through your kids (as you describe) and having your self worth dictated by your children. That's when I see a problem, when a parent gets embarrassed by how his/her child plays.
I agree and disagree with that statement. Not necessarily having your self worth dictated by your kids but your kids are a direct reflection of the parents or whoever raises them. When you see kids that back talk parents or throw fits when they do not get what they want then I would say "it was how they were raised". So relating it to softball I do not let how well my kids play dictate how I feel but did they or did they not try their absolute hardest and give it their best. So when I knew my dd 's are working hard, putting in the practice and does not do well then their is no shame. No difference than school work. If I know they are studying, doing homework and making the effort to pull good grades but fall short then I understand. BUT if they are half a$&ing it in school, sports or even cleaning house and it reflects in their performance then I do feel some shame. It is not how they were raised and not the way me and their mother conduct ourselves. Just my 2 cents, right or wrong.