DD is REALLY struggling with confidence issues no thanks to her HS coaches. She is at the bottom, and struggling to fight her way out. However, she has struggled with being accepted by teammates and coaches in past. She is quiet and somewhat socially awkward; however, she is very, very smart and athletic. Her current coach said it best "You have these REALLY great moments, and then you have these not so great moments...you are just a little inconsistent". DD has struggled with inconsistency for a long time, and we think some of it has to do with worrying about whether she will be accepted fully (being turned away from current team at next tryout) by teammates and/or coaches. Anyhow, we bought her the Mind Gym to read for now, but I wondered if we should find someone neutral to talk to. Right now, we are not it (after all, she is a teenager...who listens to their parents??). But I wondered if it could be someone like a sports counselor/psychologist? She really needs to get her head out of this pity hole, and start realizing how great she really is (realistically and potentially).
FYI - I try to encourage her to talk to her coaches...they encourage this. They have over 25 years of experience in dealing with teenagers - girls too; and I believe they could really open her eyes a little to see the light. She just has a problem with confiding in other adults that are not her parents. AND she hates talking on the phone. Last night was a rough practice for her, and I suggested that she call her coach and talk to him about her concerns. She told me to butt out. -_-
So what do you think? Let it go and let her figure it out? Since I have given her the tools she needs to work it out? Or what?
FYI - I try to encourage her to talk to her coaches...they encourage this. They have over 25 years of experience in dealing with teenagers - girls too; and I believe they could really open her eyes a little to see the light. She just has a problem with confiding in other adults that are not her parents. AND she hates talking on the phone. Last night was a rough practice for her, and I suggested that she call her coach and talk to him about her concerns. She told me to butt out. -_-
So what do you think? Let it go and let her figure it out? Since I have given her the tools she needs to work it out? Or what?