- Jul 4, 2012
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I've found myself happier when either DD plays well, and it scares me...
Why I do (did) it. I did it for my dd. I tried to focus on what her goals for the game were and I let that guide me.
To the OP on your #4. Please say something to her when she does well or not, just remind her that you love to watch her play (good or bad)
I do it because 12 hour days at a softball field are a lot better than 4 hours at a cheer leading competition or a dance recital.....
The time spent w/ DD is precious, but does that really answer the question?
We could spend time with our daughters doing lots of things.
Why softball?
Would we be this invested if it were drama? Jump rope? Robotics?
Are we this excited to spend time with her when she wants to go shopping? Or plan her birthday party?
If so, why? If not, why? Why softball?
To what extend are we living vicariously through our children? And if we are, is that wrong?
I do it to avoid working around the house.
as for living vicariously through them, hell yes I do. proudly. Their joy is the most satisfying feeling in the word to me and their pain is the most excruciating thing I can imagine so...yes, I live vicariously through my girls....except for the makeup thing and the weird affinity for sucky music.
Everytime I do, she gets upset and starts to do bad. I tell her plenty on the ride home. That's when she wants my assessments. And I always give her the positives during that time and any room for improvement later.
I've found myself happier when either DD plays well, and it scares me...