I'm of the belief that unless you coach your own team, you will rarely or never be happy as a softball parent. Coaches have their reasons for the decisions they make and it may not be readily apparent to someone such as a parent who has a strong emotional attachment to their daughter. As a parent you (we) downplay and rationalize the mistakes DD makes and play-up all the great things she is doing on and off the field (i.e. practicing extra at home, struck out the best batter on the other team, etc). All she can do is get herself in the best game ready shape she can and her time will come to play more. If it does not, you look for another team. By definition, some girls will get less playing time and those girls either step up their game and get motivated or they don't improve.