They would choose to stay and have fun playing with their friends. But I feel it's the time for us to make the decision for them. Here is why...I know I will probably get blasted. My cousin's DD just graduated High School where she played softball and made all county...she's also played on the top select teams in our state since she was 10 and she excelled in school. She will play softball for 1 of our state colleges where she got a partial academic scholarship. That is our goal for our DDs because I will have 3 kids in college at the same time...any little bit helps. I know they won't be playing ball for the top softball teams in college or getting an entire free ride and it's not even likely that they'll get any athletic scholarship (I know those are few and far between)...but they make straight As in advanced classes so if a school wants them to play ball for them, they may get a partial academic scholarship. So we need them to develop to their full potential and at 12 they don't understand that and will make a decision based on what's fun for them right now and not long term.
The truth of the matter is this. Kids who make all As and take advanced classes will get academic money regardless of whether they play ball or not. My son just recieved 4 different partial scholarships to go to school. 2 from the university and 2 from community groups. He is not going to school to play any sport. It was all based on grades and essays. Add in 3 kids going to school at the same time and you might even get some grant money as well. Take a long hard look at the reality of finacial aid and scholarships before you commit your DDs to something they don't want. Especially if its not necessary to achieve your goals.