The ice cream on the way home seemed to fix a lot of it.
That's why HS sports doesn't hold much meaning for many players.
Travel ball kids come to that realization pretty quickly.
Do you want your players to hate to lose? Is that a good quality in an athlete?
You have made me think about this! Here is how I would illustrate it:
Your first group Those who feel terrible about losing. Losing hurts. These athletes may be sad or angry, or even embarrassed if they perform poorly. They don't want to talk on the ride home. These feelings are what fuel their competitive nature. This is what I would call the "Agonize Group"
Your Second group, the "Analyze Group" Those who don't dwell on the past. They leave it on the field. They move on. They analyze what went wrong and learn from it, and they are determined to get better, but they get over their team's losses or their own poor performances quickly. They're in a good mood in the car ride home, wondering what's for dinner.
and lastly what I would call the "Avoidance Group" Those who do not seem to care how the game went. Maybe it is an act, maybe they do not have any competitive fire, or maybe they do not want the score to define them.
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Personally I think it is good to a mix of girls from the Agonize and the Analyze groups.