When I first was hired as a JV AC years ago , the JV HC (and my soon to be mentor) would tell the team we want you to have fun playing softball. And winning is fun. So I don't know what you've been taught or by whom but we are going to teach you the correct way. He would then point to the conference championship banners, the state tournament appearances and victories. That it was an honor to play for school and continue the winning tradition. He was the guy who knew things and how to teach skills including pitching. After 22 yrs (8 wth me) he died of a heart attack. I dont pretend to know everything he did but I use most of the same speech.My old man used to say - “Show me a team that loses a lot and I will show you a bunch of losers”.