- Dec 20, 2012
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OK, I will chime in and throw everything for a loop.
Does anyone really know what is going on between the 6" space between the ears of a preteen, or even a teenage female athlete? I don't and usually the most pertinent answer is what the parents want it to be. Sometimes, how much money they want to spend.
My DD started playing baseball at age 4. Played until she was 12. Then switched to softball. Now 17, has still played more baseball games than softball.
Does she want it? want what, I ask? She has the talent to play with about anyone in the country. Does she care ... NO. Folks really fail to realize that by the time a player is a Junior in high school, they have played way more games in the past, than they ever will in the future.
The answer is what the parents want it to be. Super travel orgs want to emphasis the want. But talent, even when learned at 9 years old, still rules the day.
I personally know numerous D1 signees, that my DD is a better hitter than. So what. these D1 signees want it more, I guess. My DD does not. That does not mean in any way shape or form, that my DD is not one of the most feared hitters on the high school level, with championships to prove it.
My DD does not care. She is focused on her future, without softball. As many should be, because there is no money in it (besides scholarships. of course), if not for their parents drumming into them something different.
My DD has two (2) high school seasons left. Last year was a State Championship. Hopefully two (2) more to go. Does she have the WANT ..., of course not for college. But she has the want for high school softball,
Focus on the present folks. And the joy, and possible HS championships. Sure, disagree if you want. Go for the scholarship, I don't blame you. But again, it is diminished returns.
I am glad, I am proud, and do everything in my power to promote, contribute to the IMMEDIATE future, and not look too far ahead.
So here I am. Literally hundreds of female athletes, probably thousands, even tens of thousands, have had more WANT than mine. They don't have the talent though. They did not play baseball against the boys, and show dominance against them in various ways when 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, and 12. When she had the want.
Don't matter to me. I am the luckiest dad in the world, and will never see a college ballgame, probably.
Now I will be a hypocrite and side with sftblldad7. If your daughter is as good as advertised I would encourage her to stick with it and play college ball. I would not force the issue but I would tell her to not have any regrets, don't be that 30 yr old that says " I could have, should have, would have!" Use that God given ability to get a free education. And if she still doesn't want to, then that's her decision. But there are a small percentage of girls that get to play college ball and even smaller get to play for a top D1 program. True there is life after ball and ball probably won't pay the bills for 99.99% of the girls so why not enjoy it(if she does) and play as long as possible. Because it will be gone one day and she will probably want it back. Just like all us parents that have pushed our kids, we wish we could have it back or do it over.