I actually got an email rant from one of my really great parents from last year (this year not so much) one of her biggest complaints in the letter was how I was treating my DD unfairly and the she should not be sitting so others could play...then went on to complain that certain kids should sit more.
In my response I simply told her the truth, guilty as charged, it is simply to easy to sit your kid and know that there is no parent to complain about it...this is rec so I have to rotate people out so others can meet mandatory play rules and by a long series of events I have 14 girls on my team. that means I have girls that will be All Stars sitting on the bench but it is hard for people to wrap their head around why you would sit your best players in my situation it is simple I have to the numbers and substitution rules simply force my hand and there is no way around it.
My DD also tells me all the time how she wishes I could just cheer for her instead of figuring out what I need to be doing in the game as coach...if at all possible after 14U find a way to be in the stands. Biggest reason I coach now and before was simple incompetence from most of the coaches at the younger levels.
In my response I simply told her the truth, guilty as charged, it is simply to easy to sit your kid and know that there is no parent to complain about it...this is rec so I have to rotate people out so others can meet mandatory play rules and by a long series of events I have 14 girls on my team. that means I have girls that will be All Stars sitting on the bench but it is hard for people to wrap their head around why you would sit your best players in my situation it is simple I have to the numbers and substitution rules simply force my hand and there is no way around it.
My DD also tells me all the time how she wishes I could just cheer for her instead of figuring out what I need to be doing in the game as coach...if at all possible after 14U find a way to be in the stands. Biggest reason I coach now and before was simple incompetence from most of the coaches at the younger levels.