- Oct 22, 2009
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I pose this question after a couple of conversations I had last week with some parents.
One confronted me during my pitching class, announcing her child would not be pitching nor playing softball anymore because her coach ruined it for her by not allowing her to pitch in a game. She said I would get an e-mail when I got home, so apparently she texted me during the game then saw me and ran over to me before the game was even over.
She said her child wasn't going to bust her butt practicing pitching if she wasn't going to pitch in games.
I asked around and found out the game was really close, it would determine a second place finish for the team and the team was playing well. The coach wanted to let them win and not put her in, which normally results in numerous walks and hits.
I explained this to the mom (delicately) and she said the coaches job wasn't to win the game it was to be fair to all the players, and now her daughter is so devastated she will never play again.
Well since I coach this kid, I know her a little, she is whiny and hates practices and rarely practices, which is why she is not as talented as the other pitchers.
I see this as an excuse for her daughter to use to quit, and the mom as well. Blame it on the coach.
Another parent overheard this conversation and said his high school daughter quit after her coach refused to play her. He said the coach ruined it for her.
Again, I'm thinking....excuse. High school.....boys, jobs, more time for friends, why play softball and sit the bench? Blame it on the coach.
I just think if you REALLY love it, you don't quit. You muddle through the bad.
My DD had a few really bad coaches, she survived them all.
But I always told her, if you quit, you cannot blame anyone. You quit because YOU want to.
I'm curious about your thoughts, and if you believe a coach can ruin dreams and if so should coaches be aware of this and have some responsibility for it.
One confronted me during my pitching class, announcing her child would not be pitching nor playing softball anymore because her coach ruined it for her by not allowing her to pitch in a game. She said I would get an e-mail when I got home, so apparently she texted me during the game then saw me and ran over to me before the game was even over.
She said her child wasn't going to bust her butt practicing pitching if she wasn't going to pitch in games.
I asked around and found out the game was really close, it would determine a second place finish for the team and the team was playing well. The coach wanted to let them win and not put her in, which normally results in numerous walks and hits.
I explained this to the mom (delicately) and she said the coaches job wasn't to win the game it was to be fair to all the players, and now her daughter is so devastated she will never play again.
Well since I coach this kid, I know her a little, she is whiny and hates practices and rarely practices, which is why she is not as talented as the other pitchers.
I see this as an excuse for her daughter to use to quit, and the mom as well. Blame it on the coach.
Another parent overheard this conversation and said his high school daughter quit after her coach refused to play her. He said the coach ruined it for her.
Again, I'm thinking....excuse. High school.....boys, jobs, more time for friends, why play softball and sit the bench? Blame it on the coach.
I just think if you REALLY love it, you don't quit. You muddle through the bad.
My DD had a few really bad coaches, she survived them all.
But I always told her, if you quit, you cannot blame anyone. You quit because YOU want to.
I'm curious about your thoughts, and if you believe a coach can ruin dreams and if so should coaches be aware of this and have some responsibility for it.