- Nov 29, 2009
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Ouch...
My DD is a pitcher, and she can play any other position and I'm fine. But once she gets in the circle I'm a mess. I'm Steve Martin in The Father of the Bride, flipping out over hot dog buns.
Why????? Do you not trust the work your DD has put in? Do you not trust her abilites? Do you not trust what your DD has learned? Are you afraid your DD will make a mistake and not learn from it? She needs to learn how to fail so she can pick herself up for the next challenge.
I had a girl a few years ago. Mom would pace and talk to her every time she was in the circle. I asked the girl if her mom pacing bothered her. She said yes. I had a talk with the mom in front of the girl. I asked the girl the same pacing question. To her credit she gave her mom the same answer. I explained to the mom that her DD WILL see her above all other parents. She WILL hear her above all the white noise. She WILL know where she's at. I told her thee best thing she could do is to sit down, relax, cheer and encourage her DD and the team. A few weeks later I asked the girl how her mom was. She said she's been really good about either staying out of sight or sitting in the stands cheering.
I used to sit behind the backstop off to the side in my lawn chair not saying a word. Other parents would come up to me and ask me how I could just "sit there" during tense game situations? I would tell them, me pacing and acting like a fool would not help my DD in the circle. She was playing the game with her team and anything I did on this side of the fence would not help the team. She put in all the work to get to the position of being given the ball during big games.
Sometimes parents would want to congratulate after a tough win against a good team. I would tell them to congratulate the DD and the team. They did all the work. I did nothing but watch and cheer.
If you need a way to work off nervous energy. Get a nice camera. Wander the fence line taking pictures of all the girls as well as your DD. You'll be glad you did when she's done playing ball. I have thousands of pictures saved in my computer. Every once in a while I'll look through them and I'll ask her about some of the girls and what they're doing now. Many are married, have kids, careers. moved and a myriad of things.
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