I hope so - I'd hate for her to miss out on her senior year.With regards to not playing her Sr. year, most humans say things they don't necessarily mean when they are upset. She may change her mind once things calm down..
I hope so - I'd hate for her to miss out on her senior year.With regards to not playing her Sr. year, most humans say things they don't necessarily mean when they are upset. She may change her mind once things calm down..
I wouldn't go over his head if she wants to continue playing for him..doesn't sound like the type of guy who would appreciate it and it will just make things worse...it isn't worth it in my opinion. Once she talks to him and he gives her the penalty she should just accept it if her choice is to march in the parade. The penalty won't be worse than the recourse of going over his head..Maybe you should ask the coach why he hates the military???
Ok...maybe he just has a bit of tunnel vision.
You could go to the AD or principal, but first send your DD to talk with the coach (face-to-face). If the parade is that important to her, tell her to explain that to the coach. Tell her to look him in the eye and ask what the penalty will be for marching in an ROTC parade and missing a 30 min individual practice. If it's a make-up with a few foul poles thrown on top, then no big deal. If it's more serious than that, then you have something significant to talk about when you meet the coach's bosses. Who knows? You might run into someone with an office full of personal military history, or a flag with a star hanging on the front porch.
OTOH, it appears that your DD playing HS softball is more important to you than her. If she'd rather do JROTC, it's because she has an obvious interest in joining the military. That's a worthy pursuit...let her chase it. My DD had competing interests in HS that took her off the school ball path, and she's a more well-rounded person because of it. That didn't mean her playing career stopped, and she's in her second year as part of a college team.
I understand there is backstory that I don't know. but from this story it sounds like
1) you have coach who want your dd to make softball the priority
2) she does not have another required activity at the same time. She has something she wants to do.
3) coach expects her make required softball activities over things she wants to do.
I wouldn't go over his head if she wants to continue playing for him..doesn't sound like the type of guy who would appreciate it and it will just make things worse...it isn't worth it in my opinion. Once she talks to him and he gives her the penalty she should just accept it if her choice is to march in the parade. The penalty won't be worse than the recourse of going over his head..