I know AD well enough to know that if some of his 18u players came to him and told him that "Honey" made some players uncomfortable, that he'd take them seriously. The idea that any use of the word in any context, in any situation is malicious isn't fair, and I think that's probably where some of the strong reaction is coming from.
There is a lot of nuance to things like this and the best thing anyone can do is to shut up and listen instead of dying on the hill of "This is how I've always done it and if you don't like it, you're soft".
There is a lot of nuance to things like this and the best thing anyone can do is to shut up and listen instead of dying on the hill of "This is how I've always done it and if you don't like it, you're soft".