'HONEY you should have had that grounder'

[Rolling Hard]

I refer to my DD as "ya big dummy!" in my best Fred Sanford voice.

See! I'm fun too.

probably causing her irredeemable harm. LOL

 

[jdint]

probably causing her irredeemable harm. LOL

LOL. Right, and if she doesn't like it she can find another place to live.

 

[ANNASDAD]

Uh oh, pretty sure I offended an entire team of 18U young ladies this weekend, why didn't you guys warn me?

You know, my initial post here was a joke, I didn't call a single one of my girls this weekend honey, not once, and in Atlanta where I feel it's very okay to use the word honey!

The president of our organization just recently brought me back in to help his 18U coach just for this Fall season, he brought me in for a reason, the the way I talk to the girls and the respect I show everyone of them, the coach, and the umps, and I know this game!

Just blows my mind that the word "honey" would set some of you guys hair on fire.......and I'm the kind of man that if I did call a girl an innocent word like honey and she didn't like it, you can bet I wouldn't do it again!

Like I said, I'm 55, I'm from North Carolina, honey is a widely used term here! I don't think like a liberal or progressive and I don't get offended easily! But I do realize the Epstein world we live in today, it's scary for us Dad's who have daughters that we can't keep our eyes on 24/7, I've shot thousands of rounds of pistol, rifle, and shotgun ammo with my daughter, and I've tried my best to teach her the tell-tell signs to look for but in the end, I'll never stop worrying about her well being!

But, without even asking her, she would laugh at the idea of being offended by a coach calling her honey! Maybe it's just the region? I still think it's up to parents to know the team / organization, and especially the coach they're playing for!

I'm out!

 

[FP26]

You know, my initial post here was a joke, I didn't call a single one of my girls this weekend honey, not once, and in Atlanta where I feel it's very okay to use the word honey!

One thing I know for sure is that I have been called much worse things than "honey".

 

[Lightning]

DD plays 12U and her HC calls players "sweetheart" all the time. It doesn't bother any of them. This is a team that's coming from rec, and the players are all girls who this coach has worked with for the last 5-6 years. So while "sweetheart" suggests a level of intimacy, HC has watched these kids grow up and knows them well.

If we went to a different team and a coach who didn't know her called her sweetheart or honey, that would feel totally different and would likely make DD uncomfortable.

 

[Chris8]

In the normal course of coaching, terms of endearment are not okay.
I do use ladies/girls a lot. In that particular example, I'd've probably said something like "ooooh, girl! we just did 50 of those in practice last week! Guess we'll do some more this week!"

I will echo the geographical thing though. I'm a northerner, but spent a good amount of time in the Carolinas and Florida. I'm more likely to notice if someone doesn't call me Hon down there. But I notice it, probably because I'm a northerner, and it's jarring to my ears.

If I do call someone Honey, Sweetie, Baby, Boo, or something along those lines it's because maternal instinct has kicked in. Someone's hurt. Or their feelings are. I don't know if it's okay, but it slips out when I'm trying to express sympathy.

If I do call someone Honey, Sweetie, Baby, Boo, or something along those lines it's because maternal instinct has kicked in. Someone's hurt. Or their feelings are. I don't know if it's okay, but it slips out when I'm trying to express sympathy.

CONTEXT!

 

[Chris8]

Good post. After all this lockdown stuff is over, I'll meet you at the Horseshoe and buy you a cold one. You can even call me Honey if you want.

@Cannonball @jdint I don't know where the Horseshoe is but I'd meet and buy a cold one too. I'm ok with honey too

 

[_MIA_]

Funny how the one’s railing against the old school losers that won’t listen are doing exactly what they are accusing us of doing. You are right and if we don’t believe it then we are the problem. You are the ones sexualizing the word and then claiming we have the problem. Because you don’t like it then that is the final word, whatever. When you make up stupid, off topic scenarios you lose the argument. When someone calls my 11 year old honey she finds it hilarious and jokes about it, some of you would do well to act like sn 12 year old sometimes.

The only thing I am saying is that if somebody tells me they have a problem with it I am not going to question how they are feeling regardless if I would feel the same way

 

[Schmick's Gloves]

How 'bout, "Pumpkinpuss"?

 

[MikeP]

The only thing I am saying is that if somebody tells me they have a problem with it I am not going to question how they are feeling regardless if I would feel the same way

I think most of us feel the same way