- Jul 2, 2013
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We were talking during the session and she said "I'm worried, but it's not about my ability. It's about hearing people talk, and the chanting and noise. We really need to work on that soon." We had been talking about it anyway, and I had showed her the Yoko Ono video, which she thought was hilarious but agreed we couldn't play around the other girls..haha.
She told me later that she had let the other stress go. She's not worried about losing or performing badly. She's just chillin now. She just had to do some self talk I guess. The kid has many layers, and it's been good to see her start conquering some of the mental hangups we all get at times.
Be careful about this early on. I talked to my DD a lot when she first started about being even keeled in the circle and not letting things get to her. She eventually got to a point where she was sometimes too even keeled. Almost detached at times.
My daughter is very competitive (she comes by it naturally) and taking that competitiveness out of her sometimes hurt her performance. She's a better pitcher when she pitches with "fire" and it has been hard to get her to show emotion in a positive way since I spent so long hammering on not letting things effect her in the circle.
All of that said, and after 12 years of playing softball, she was telling me that she was pissed during her last high school game because of the opposing student section. They were calling her and the other senior starter by name during their at bats to try and rattle them. She wasn't bothered by them doing that. She was bothered that our student section wasn't being as loud and disruptive.