OK, so DD is on a 16U showcase team. Previously I wrote about an incident in which there was some chat on a message board by a couple of players saying they didn’t want to play one weekend and hoped they lost early and other negativity in warmups. Your advice which I took and believe was correct was to let it go.
This weekend, the coach confronts the team after a bad game and questions the team’s heart and motivation. There were a couple of plays my daughter failed to make, and he pointed them out, and basically said he wanted to call out the team more and for players to call each other out more. DD took that feedback well. She wants to be pushed. It led to a good discussion between DD and myself. Good coaching, IMO.
Two games later, another poor effort/loss. Assistant coach calls for players-only meeting. DD says they focused mainly on DD and another player and said ‘they didn’t know how to play the outfield.’ There have been 2 balls this weekend that DD could’ve taken charge and taken that she didn’t. As she walked away from the meeting, she overheard a player say (while watching another game) ‘that’s how you play outfield.’
DD can take criticism. If it’s constructive. Saying things like that behind a player’s back is very damaging, IMO.
What really makes it hard for DD to take is that she has her own frustrations with the team, that they don’t want to win bad enough, they don’t work hard enough. They complain. DD outworks everybody on the team. One player even complained that they didn’t like the fact that DD gets on the fence in the dugout and cheers because it keeps another player from seeing.
Let me put it another way.
Several weeks ago, a player on the team made a comment on a message board that she hoped we lost a game so it would shorten our weekend. Never confronted. Another girl who took 300 fly balls on her own in practice last week gets called out because 2 balls dropped this weekend that they thought she should have caught if she'd been more assertive. They were right. She should've caught them. But that's pretty tough to take when you're busting your rear and you're one getting called out.
This weekend, the coach confronts the team after a bad game and questions the team’s heart and motivation. There were a couple of plays my daughter failed to make, and he pointed them out, and basically said he wanted to call out the team more and for players to call each other out more. DD took that feedback well. She wants to be pushed. It led to a good discussion between DD and myself. Good coaching, IMO.
Two games later, another poor effort/loss. Assistant coach calls for players-only meeting. DD says they focused mainly on DD and another player and said ‘they didn’t know how to play the outfield.’ There have been 2 balls this weekend that DD could’ve taken charge and taken that she didn’t. As she walked away from the meeting, she overheard a player say (while watching another game) ‘that’s how you play outfield.’
DD can take criticism. If it’s constructive. Saying things like that behind a player’s back is very damaging, IMO.
What really makes it hard for DD to take is that she has her own frustrations with the team, that they don’t want to win bad enough, they don’t work hard enough. They complain. DD outworks everybody on the team. One player even complained that they didn’t like the fact that DD gets on the fence in the dugout and cheers because it keeps another player from seeing.
Let me put it another way.
Several weeks ago, a player on the team made a comment on a message board that she hoped we lost a game so it would shorten our weekend. Never confronted. Another girl who took 300 fly balls on her own in practice last week gets called out because 2 balls dropped this weekend that they thought she should have caught if she'd been more assertive. They were right. She should've caught them. But that's pretty tough to take when you're busting your rear and you're one getting called out.