Ok here's the background my DD has been playing up in age since she was 8 always playing in a division older than her actual age since we left rec and went to tb/comp ball. her and I have worked very hard to get her to a level where she is a very good pitcher not only for 14u comp in our area but with the rule change of age eligible 12u with the money invested in private lessons monthly not to mention the time involved, Im the assistant coach on our team and have been since joining the team, our head coach against my advice registered our team as a B team cause we don't travel out of the state (which was his justification) also cause supposedly the majority of the parents wanted to play B ball. but it has clearly been a huge mistake imo cause we play B caliber teams, if you can call them that during the week which we as a team totally dominate, but on the weekends are playing in A tourney's and its very apparent that our girls are not playing to that level due purely to the fact they don't get challenged in league and when they do errors have killed us. well last week the hc decided that we were going to go to nationals in Minnesota and play in that tourney. I thought about it a lot since he dropped that on us and I called him up and told him I didn't think we would be going cause looking at the expenses involved, time off of work etc. to do the nationals I didn't think it worth it, he says to me but it would be fun and a good experience for the girls which I agree but imo, personally I don't want to drop a thousand dollars on a tourney that we cannot compete in. not that we don't have the talent on the team cause we definitely do but they wont be prepared, 100% because of the comp that he has signed us up for. just this week he had a opportunity to dump the end of the year tourney for our league for a spot that opened up in the heartland tourney USSSA here in Sioux falls the same weekend and chose to stay in the B league Tourney VS a good competitive national qualifying tourney right here in our back yard. oh I forgot after I got off the phone with him he sent out a mass text to the rest of the parents excluding me saying that nationals was off due to me and my DD wont go to it basically putting the total blame on it on us. so am I wrong in my decision?