- Jan 24, 2011
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Male or Female , I dont really care as long as they know the game and can teach it
Wow...you don't get this at all. It is not happenstance that the crazy Dads have exceptional softball players.
The coach I was talking about (dozens of D1 pitchers, a CWS MVP and 3 Olympians) told me that the crazy dads are the ones who make the players exceptional, not him. Why? Because a Crazy Daddy is crazy enough or stupid enough (depending upon your world view) to work with his DD every day for years on the off-chance the DDs had the talent to be really good.
Anyone who is out in the backyard with his DD catching 200 or 300 pitches every day for 10 years is not normal. The guy playing golf (or fishing) every Saturday, Sunday and Wednesday is the normal one.
There was a guy across the street whose DD was twice the athlete my kids were...but, his priority was golf. He wouldn't leave work early to go out in the backyard and play with his kids. He didn't take his kid to the gym when there was four feet of snow on the ground to pitch. He would stay in and watch SportsCenter. *HE* is the normal person. I'm the abnormal one.
A coach has to learn how to handle Crazy Daddies. If the coach doesn't, he will never be able to get and keep the exceptional players.
I know, and this is only after 1 season of tb! It's gotten really bad the last couple 3 or 4 months. Mostly because I have been not been working since April. Fortunately, there is hope in sit and by Oct. I should be working again. That should provide a distraction from sb. Of course then there will be another problem as I will bw working about 60hrs a week on swing shifts. I hope the withdrawal symptoms are not too bad.Underground, You are showing some of the symptoms.
I knew a guy many years ago, that knew little about softball when his DD started in it. She was an "only" and was born when he was 40.
He could not stand it that she had a very good #1 senior pitcher ahead of her in HS. So, one Friday evening his DD didn't get to pitch and he bought a house in the neighboring district and she was in another school Monday morning.
I know in our house it is way easier to work with my dd than my ds. She listens way better and has a much longer attention span. Plus there is something special about the father/daughter dynamic. Ds is only 4, though, but I really don't see him getting any better.I also want to ask if dads stay this involved with son's pitching.....or let him 'fly out of the nest.'
I happen to know somewhat from my facility, but would love the answers from posters here.
This is not true. My dad stopped catching me when I was 12; he had to work anyway and was not around. I worked out with my teammates, my brothers and sisters, friends, or I pitched by myself into a net.
That's why we disagree--I feel the discipline, motivation and work has to come from the player, not from Dad hovering. I think that we now stress reps over quality of the reps as well. Talk about stereotypes, why can't this person who makes the player exceptional be the Mom, whether she is out in the yard or just taking care of the daughter in other ways?
What I think is true is my experience, and others can call it stereotyping men, but what I said is how it happened to me. I am fine over in my lessons facility, anyway. Better pay, that is more than nothing.
I am not looking for things to make sense. I just attended a game yesterday where the male coaches went off on the umps, and had the 'stereotypically' male verbally aggressive thing going on. Umps tell me when they saw female coaches or female adult players, they preferred umping and said "thank goodness." My perception is valid.
After yesterday, I do think some male coaches need to do some self-reflection and not blame me for my perspective.