I watched on big explosion during a 14U game. Pitcher came off the field after a bad inning and the coach started in on her. She was first up and popped up the first pitch to 3rd. Coach said something that I didn't catch as she headed back to the dugout. She enter the dugout and sailed her helmet to the other end off the wall and then kicked it back to the wall. When the coach confronted her she got in his face and said, "it's supposed to be a f'n game!" Grabbed her gear and exited the dugout with the coach begging her to come back. She didn't return and the #2 started the next inning.
DD was carrying her Basketball team. Towards the end of the season I (coach) noticed that she was beginning to point fingers at the other girls for not doing their part. She was right in her assessment but I told her not all of them played with the same passion that she did. It got worse with her yelling and I benched her only to have her cry the last 2 minutes. This happened for 2 games when I finally told her it either stops now or she won't play any more. I didn't care if we lost all of them by 40 points. After another talk I was able to convince her that regardless of the expectations of the other players or the parents, I did not expect her to carry the team by herself. She relaxed some and finished the season on a very positive note. Kids that are good with an expectation that they will carry the team have a lot of extra baggage they bring to the field or floor. Make sure she knows it is a team sport. Not just her and some kids watching her.
DD was carrying her Basketball team. Towards the end of the season I (coach) noticed that she was beginning to point fingers at the other girls for not doing their part. She was right in her assessment but I told her not all of them played with the same passion that she did. It got worse with her yelling and I benched her only to have her cry the last 2 minutes. This happened for 2 games when I finally told her it either stops now or she won't play any more. I didn't care if we lost all of them by 40 points. After another talk I was able to convince her that regardless of the expectations of the other players or the parents, I did not expect her to carry the team by herself. She relaxed some and finished the season on a very positive note. Kids that are good with an expectation that they will carry the team have a lot of extra baggage they bring to the field or floor. Make sure she knows it is a team sport. Not just her and some kids watching her.