The coach has tried discipline already and it hasn't worked, so there's no need to continue down that path.
The coach needs to salvage the team immediately and show that being on the team is a privilege. He should cut the no show and cut the bad seed. Then he should have a team meeting with the remaining girls (and parents) and invite anyone else who doesn't want to give a 100% an opportunity to leave as well. The actions of those not trying are not fair to those who are there to play and practice hard. The disrespect will also no longer be tolerated and girls will be asked to leave practice, and if it becomes a problem they'll be asked to leave the team as well.
Then, move past it and remind everyone of all the good reasons they are there and why they joined the team in the first place. Some team building drills and activities also might be helpful.
Now, since you're not the coach, you'll have to figure out a way to 'help' the coach to make the hard decision. There are plenty of teams looking for dedicated, hard working girls. You have 4 players who are not getting the TB experience you signed up for. If the other three families will stand beside you, go to the coach together with your concerns. If they aren't willing to go with you, then you must be willing to leave the team by yourself and find a better situation for your DD. I would not leave her on this team as-is, it may ruin her love for the game.
Best of luck and let us know what you decide and how things turn out.
The coach needs to salvage the team immediately and show that being on the team is a privilege. He should cut the no show and cut the bad seed. Then he should have a team meeting with the remaining girls (and parents) and invite anyone else who doesn't want to give a 100% an opportunity to leave as well. The actions of those not trying are not fair to those who are there to play and practice hard. The disrespect will also no longer be tolerated and girls will be asked to leave practice, and if it becomes a problem they'll be asked to leave the team as well.
Then, move past it and remind everyone of all the good reasons they are there and why they joined the team in the first place. Some team building drills and activities also might be helpful.
Now, since you're not the coach, you'll have to figure out a way to 'help' the coach to make the hard decision. There are plenty of teams looking for dedicated, hard working girls. You have 4 players who are not getting the TB experience you signed up for. If the other three families will stand beside you, go to the coach together with your concerns. If they aren't willing to go with you, then you must be willing to leave the team by yourself and find a better situation for your DD. I would not leave her on this team as-is, it may ruin her love for the game.
Best of luck and let us know what you decide and how things turn out.