- Jun 8, 2019
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Hi All,
This may be just me, but it has been very difficult to find the right words to let my DD's old team know that we are moving on to another team. So here's some background.
Started with the organization at 10u first year, pretty new, only a couple of years under their belt.
Old organization plays at C level. New org plays a respectable B level and DD will play for them now in 11u. (Primary reason why we are leaving. She needs to be challenged. #1 pitcher on team, usually only throws fastballs because opponents cannot time her. Feels ready for a more competitive team.)
I know there is a possibility that the grass may not be greener, but the new org has been recruiting her since season has ended.
I know we don't "owe" old org anything, but they have trained her to be a good softball player and I do not want them to have a bad opinion about my DD because they may be depending on her for the next season or her teammates are expecting her to stay. Which, btw, we never denied that she will stay with them or confirmed that she would. She just didn't know what her plans were until she tried out for the new org and coach gave her an offer in the pitching rotation on the spot.
She tried out last year, was offered a spot again, but was told that she wouldn't see a lot of mound time due to them having pitchers that were faster than her. We denied that offer because she wanted to pitch and what kind of mom would I be if I told my then 10 year old that maybe she shouldn't pitch because a more competitive team wants you but as a fourth pitcher. So she stayed with her old team, worked hard on pitching and is now almost 15 mph faster (with the help of puberty). So now the more competitive team wants her to pitch for them and she accepted.
At the end of the day, it has always been her decision. We just support her. She is very excited to be on the new team. Time to move on and get better.
Basically trying to gracefully bow out of the old org for my DD so as to not burn bridges. It feels like breaking up with a boyfriend of two years. Not a bad relationship, just found something more attractive. Hoping that best case scenario, they just understand, no hard feelings. Any advice would help or how stories of similar situations. This forum has been like softball therapy for me.
This may be just me, but it has been very difficult to find the right words to let my DD's old team know that we are moving on to another team. So here's some background.
Started with the organization at 10u first year, pretty new, only a couple of years under their belt.
Old organization plays at C level. New org plays a respectable B level and DD will play for them now in 11u. (Primary reason why we are leaving. She needs to be challenged. #1 pitcher on team, usually only throws fastballs because opponents cannot time her. Feels ready for a more competitive team.)
I know there is a possibility that the grass may not be greener, but the new org has been recruiting her since season has ended.
I know we don't "owe" old org anything, but they have trained her to be a good softball player and I do not want them to have a bad opinion about my DD because they may be depending on her for the next season or her teammates are expecting her to stay. Which, btw, we never denied that she will stay with them or confirmed that she would. She just didn't know what her plans were until she tried out for the new org and coach gave her an offer in the pitching rotation on the spot.
She tried out last year, was offered a spot again, but was told that she wouldn't see a lot of mound time due to them having pitchers that were faster than her. We denied that offer because she wanted to pitch and what kind of mom would I be if I told my then 10 year old that maybe she shouldn't pitch because a more competitive team wants you but as a fourth pitcher. So she stayed with her old team, worked hard on pitching and is now almost 15 mph faster (with the help of puberty). So now the more competitive team wants her to pitch for them and she accepted.
At the end of the day, it has always been her decision. We just support her. She is very excited to be on the new team. Time to move on and get better.
Basically trying to gracefully bow out of the old org for my DD so as to not burn bridges. It feels like breaking up with a boyfriend of two years. Not a bad relationship, just found something more attractive. Hoping that best case scenario, they just understand, no hard feelings. Any advice would help or how stories of similar situations. This forum has been like softball therapy for me.