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I'm in my 5th year of coaching LL ball with the same two guys.
The same guy has been manager for the whole time and can get a little hot under the collar sometimes. I'm thinking that when we move up to the next level (Senior League) I should move on. The problem is, last year he was talking about moving up to the Senior league and having his two coaches (and their DDs) go with him. at the time it was a long way off and I thought sure, why not. DDs really enjoy playing together, just keep it going.
I guess my problem is that after all this time I'm seeing some problems that I didn't pay attention to before, but now seem like potentially insurmountable issues.
1) he tends to speak first without thinking or trying to understand another's point of view. (this could be a player, umpire whatever) yelling at a kid for a perceived screw-up rather than talking to the kid calmly and finding out what they were thinking and using aa a teaching moment. Done this to DD a couple of times where he was 180 deg wrong.
2) he tends to blame kids for making mistakes. He thinks he's just being truthful about stuff that they need to fix and won't know unless he tells them. Whatever he said after one game, he had my wife and DD believing that he came right out and blamed her for the team's loss. In a game over the weekend, he had one (10yo) girl in tears because she wasn't playing her position (SS) to the level needed. He's the one who put her there and she didn't misrepresent herself.
3) He over-commits and doesn't work with his team. He coaches soccer, and a Senior League team and is self-employed but has been to about one practice all year. When I was unavailable for a practice one time he canceled it. This is a team that needs a LOT of practice. I have been leaving work early whenever I can get away with it to hold practices - going back to early April.
4) he expects kids to magically learn to throw correctly and hit better without teaching them how.
5) He will sit on a bucket and yell at the umpire, arguing a call, making a scene rather than walking over and talking to him about it. These umpires are friends of ours. Sometimes they see things differently than we do. what benefit does it have to treat an ump like that?
6) he does nothing to make his team want to play (or win) for him. But he still expects to win.
I know I've made my bed and all that, but does anyone have any recommendations for a smooth trnsition without impact kids (AND)adults friendships?
The same guy has been manager for the whole time and can get a little hot under the collar sometimes. I'm thinking that when we move up to the next level (Senior League) I should move on. The problem is, last year he was talking about moving up to the Senior league and having his two coaches (and their DDs) go with him. at the time it was a long way off and I thought sure, why not. DDs really enjoy playing together, just keep it going.
I guess my problem is that after all this time I'm seeing some problems that I didn't pay attention to before, but now seem like potentially insurmountable issues.
1) he tends to speak first without thinking or trying to understand another's point of view. (this could be a player, umpire whatever) yelling at a kid for a perceived screw-up rather than talking to the kid calmly and finding out what they were thinking and using aa a teaching moment. Done this to DD a couple of times where he was 180 deg wrong.
2) he tends to blame kids for making mistakes. He thinks he's just being truthful about stuff that they need to fix and won't know unless he tells them. Whatever he said after one game, he had my wife and DD believing that he came right out and blamed her for the team's loss. In a game over the weekend, he had one (10yo) girl in tears because she wasn't playing her position (SS) to the level needed. He's the one who put her there and she didn't misrepresent herself.
3) He over-commits and doesn't work with his team. He coaches soccer, and a Senior League team and is self-employed but has been to about one practice all year. When I was unavailable for a practice one time he canceled it. This is a team that needs a LOT of practice. I have been leaving work early whenever I can get away with it to hold practices - going back to early April.
4) he expects kids to magically learn to throw correctly and hit better without teaching them how.
5) He will sit on a bucket and yell at the umpire, arguing a call, making a scene rather than walking over and talking to him about it. These umpires are friends of ours. Sometimes they see things differently than we do. what benefit does it have to treat an ump like that?
6) he does nothing to make his team want to play (or win) for him. But he still expects to win.
I know I've made my bed and all that, but does anyone have any recommendations for a smooth trnsition without impact kids (AND)adults friendships?
