First semester for EVERY freshman (including NARP's) and their parents is overwhelming and a huge adjustment. You will typically have a lot more free time than they had in HS. High school very regimented: Wake up early in the morning. Go to school ALL Day, then after school stuff, maybe softball practice or lessons. Go home, eat, homework, go to Sleep. Rinse and Repeat. College: Classes are staggered, and not everyday. You don't get to interact with the same ppl in class 5 days a week, so it's tougher to socialize.
The upperclassmen should be driving social activities and "captain's workouts" and that is the place where your DD should engage as much as possible. DD's freshman year, she came in guns a blazin' with her over the top personality and her on the field swagger. The upper classmen didn't know to think of her and some were put off by her. At other school's she would have fit in perfectly and that swagger was would have been expected. DD played TB with those types of players, but she realized that her college teammates didn't play at the same level and intensity that she did. She adjusted and cooled her jets.
DD is at a D3 and she calls for voluntary work outs almost every day and only Monday was introduced to the newly hired Head Coach. As Marriad said the coaches only get real practices for 15 days and 21 innings one game day. They have been doing lifting for 2 weeks and she has been able to socialize with the new girls inviting them to frat parties and social type stuff. She has gone out of her way to give the freshman a better incoming experience than she had. For many upper classmen they view freshman as competition and everyone is usually sizing each other up. Some will keep their distance until everyone gets more familiar with one another.
We have talked to DD more in the last 3 weeks than we did the whole summer put together while she was home. Facetime and cell phones make this so much easier. DD texted yesterday to get Core's contact info since one of her teammates wants a new bat.
As I think back to my college years, I rarely talked to my mom. I didn't give it any thought whatsoever how my mom felt about me jumping ship to college. In retrospect, I feel bad for that. I went to school an hour away and would come home every couple of weeks my freshman year and long distance calls were a thing back then. Remember 30 cents a minute, collect calls and calling cards??? Mom would come watch me play rugby from time to time. College was the best 6 years of my life!
Here's the deal. Give it time. You and her will both adjust. I really takes a full year to get into a groove. Then there is only 3 more to go!
The upperclassmen should be driving social activities and "captain's workouts" and that is the place where your DD should engage as much as possible. DD's freshman year, she came in guns a blazin' with her over the top personality and her on the field swagger. The upper classmen didn't know to think of her and some were put off by her. At other school's she would have fit in perfectly and that swagger was would have been expected. DD played TB with those types of players, but she realized that her college teammates didn't play at the same level and intensity that she did. She adjusted and cooled her jets.
DD is at a D3 and she calls for voluntary work outs almost every day and only Monday was introduced to the newly hired Head Coach. As Marriad said the coaches only get real practices for 15 days and 21 innings one game day. They have been doing lifting for 2 weeks and she has been able to socialize with the new girls inviting them to frat parties and social type stuff. She has gone out of her way to give the freshman a better incoming experience than she had. For many upper classmen they view freshman as competition and everyone is usually sizing each other up. Some will keep their distance until everyone gets more familiar with one another.
We have talked to DD more in the last 3 weeks than we did the whole summer put together while she was home. Facetime and cell phones make this so much easier. DD texted yesterday to get Core's contact info since one of her teammates wants a new bat.
As I think back to my college years, I rarely talked to my mom. I didn't give it any thought whatsoever how my mom felt about me jumping ship to college. In retrospect, I feel bad for that. I went to school an hour away and would come home every couple of weeks my freshman year and long distance calls were a thing back then. Remember 30 cents a minute, collect calls and calling cards??? Mom would come watch me play rugby from time to time. College was the best 6 years of my life!
Here's the deal. Give it time. You and her will both adjust. I really takes a full year to get into a groove. Then there is only 3 more to go!
