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DD is 15 and a Freshman in HS. She has been playing Softball since she was7 or 8 and Spring, summer and winter for the past 3 years. Now she is on the Freshman team and plays in the senior league (LL). I've noticed her enthusiasm for the game has disappeared, she plays like her head is no longer in the game and she isn't hitting- which has always been her strength.
I know she doesn't like the "team" she's on, but i also know she doesn't like the coach. On the team she doesn't like, many of the girls are on her Sr league team that she does like. One of the things I don't like about the Freshman team is we never know the schedule from week to week. Practice every day but always changing times.
Something I'm thinking about is there is practice every day, even during school vacation week, and I think DD doesn't like the coimmitment. Every team she's played on has never had more than a 3 or 4 day/week commitment, now she has every day and sometimes twice in the same day (two teams). That and she has a heavy course load in school. Not much of a social life either, but she's not one of those social butterfly types.
We don't like the substandard performance we're seeing out of her and would rather she not play then go on half-heartedly at best. Right now she is of no value to her team-or any other team for that matter.
But she says she wants to play, just not on the Freshman team. She was really upset last night when she found out she had a game this morning where she thought she would stay home with her younger sister while mom was at work. (She and her sister live to annoy the other)
I posted here not too long ago about how I was fed up and didn't want to bother with this coach anymore and cooler heads advised that if she wanted to keep playing ball in HS, she should finish the year. I took that advice, but now I'm wondering if maybe DD is too lazy to commit to a full-time team, period.
My plan is for her to suck it up and finish out the season. Stop whining and do her job.
I'm wondering if DD has suddenly reached a point where she is done but hasn't realized it yet.
I know she doesn't like the "team" she's on, but i also know she doesn't like the coach. On the team she doesn't like, many of the girls are on her Sr league team that she does like. One of the things I don't like about the Freshman team is we never know the schedule from week to week. Practice every day but always changing times.
Something I'm thinking about is there is practice every day, even during school vacation week, and I think DD doesn't like the coimmitment. Every team she's played on has never had more than a 3 or 4 day/week commitment, now she has every day and sometimes twice in the same day (two teams). That and she has a heavy course load in school. Not much of a social life either, but she's not one of those social butterfly types.
We don't like the substandard performance we're seeing out of her and would rather she not play then go on half-heartedly at best. Right now she is of no value to her team-or any other team for that matter.
But she says she wants to play, just not on the Freshman team. She was really upset last night when she found out she had a game this morning where she thought she would stay home with her younger sister while mom was at work. (She and her sister live to annoy the other)
I posted here not too long ago about how I was fed up and didn't want to bother with this coach anymore and cooler heads advised that if she wanted to keep playing ball in HS, she should finish the year. I took that advice, but now I'm wondering if maybe DD is too lazy to commit to a full-time team, period.
My plan is for her to suck it up and finish out the season. Stop whining and do her job.
I'm wondering if DD has suddenly reached a point where she is done but hasn't realized it yet.
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