My daughter is responding very well to the style of coaching of her new team. She is more confident, happier. Enjoys practices more. Haven't played games yet.
Quick questions -
- What coaching style brings out the best in your daughter? What's the best way to coach her, iyo?
- Should coaches treat their players all the same, or coach them differently based on their differing personalities?
Back to my daughter -- My advice to a coach is do not show disappointment or frustration with her. Although this is an issue she needs to work through, you are still better to accept it rather than fight it. She's always going to give proper effort, so that's never an issue. But if you teach her something Wednesday, she might mess it up during the game. That's when she's looking for your reaction. If she picks up that she's somehow let you down or disappointed you, that seems to prick an insecurity in her, and she doesn't respond well to it. But if you believe in her, she will find a way to live up to your expectations. If you think she's a good hitter, she senses it and she will hit. If you think she's one of your best players, she probably will become one of your best players.
This might sound like most kids, and maybe it is. But since I get to see mine up close and in private, it seems to me that my daughter is like this to an extreme. It appears to me that she responds much worse to coaches who show disappointment, and much better to coaches who believe in her, than 90 percent of kids. I'm not saying this is good or bad. I wish she had thicker skin. But I also accept her for where she is right now.
What would you say about your daughter?
Quick questions -
- What coaching style brings out the best in your daughter? What's the best way to coach her, iyo?
- Should coaches treat their players all the same, or coach them differently based on their differing personalities?
Back to my daughter -- My advice to a coach is do not show disappointment or frustration with her. Although this is an issue she needs to work through, you are still better to accept it rather than fight it. She's always going to give proper effort, so that's never an issue. But if you teach her something Wednesday, she might mess it up during the game. That's when she's looking for your reaction. If she picks up that she's somehow let you down or disappointed you, that seems to prick an insecurity in her, and she doesn't respond well to it. But if you believe in her, she will find a way to live up to your expectations. If you think she's a good hitter, she senses it and she will hit. If you think she's one of your best players, she probably will become one of your best players.
This might sound like most kids, and maybe it is. But since I get to see mine up close and in private, it seems to me that my daughter is like this to an extreme. It appears to me that she responds much worse to coaches who show disappointment, and much better to coaches who believe in her, than 90 percent of kids. I'm not saying this is good or bad. I wish she had thicker skin. But I also accept her for where she is right now.
What would you say about your daughter?
Last edited: