May I respectfully suggest that You just drop her off and not go to her games or practice! I'm with Texas Heat, you need to back off--I know you are saying you don't initiate it the softball conversations and you aren't the loony parent but if you are "about to lose your mind" over this, you probably are part of the problem.
I am not judging you, just saying that this is a game that really isn't all that important in the grand scheme of life and this kid needs to see that you aren't hovering at every game and practice and watching her all the time. Let her see you enjoying your own interests. When you pick her up, tell her what YOU did during that time. Don't even ask about her slapping adventures.
Just a suggestion.
I am not judging you, just saying that this is a game that really isn't all that important in the grand scheme of life and this kid needs to see that you aren't hovering at every game and practice and watching her all the time. Let her see you enjoying your own interests. When you pick her up, tell her what YOU did during that time. Don't even ask about her slapping adventures.
Just a suggestion.