I'm at a bit of a loss. I have three daughters and have always encouraged them to be active and participate in sports. I played college baseball and fortunately for me my two oldest daughters were drawn to fastpitch softball. My oldest hit here ceiling at the age of 14 (she is now 16) and is done playing but now her younger sister my 12 almost 13 year old is thinking of quitting. I have coached both of them for the last eight years and coach the traveling team that my 12 year old has been on for the last three years. I will call my 12 year old daughter "E" for convenience.
E is not only a great player but one of the best in the state in her age group. I know some might say that she is wanting to quit because of her dad pushing her too hard. I promise, that is not the case. I learned my lesson in that respect with my older daughter. I did push her and the teams she was on, and learned what did and did not work. I have not tried nor have I had to push E. She has always been a hard worker and a team leader. She has always enjoyed the competition and the praise she has received from other players and teams.
She does play other sports such and volleyball and basketball, but softball has always been her passion.
My question is WHAT DO I DO? The softball season for our team likely will not start until April or May so there is some time to contemplate. Honestly I do not want her to quit or take a year off, but I want to do what is best for E. I know she may change her mind and want to play but she may not. She did not play fall ball because she wanted time off. Do I tell her she needs to play and if she still wants to quit she can after the season or do I simply leave the decision up to her? Part of the situation that is complicated is she is one of the best players and I am the coach. Many parents want me to coach and I have put a ton of time and energy into this group of girls. Many girls and parents are counting on me and E. If E is not playing I will need to turn the team over to someone else. Advice needed.
E is not only a great player but one of the best in the state in her age group. I know some might say that she is wanting to quit because of her dad pushing her too hard. I promise, that is not the case. I learned my lesson in that respect with my older daughter. I did push her and the teams she was on, and learned what did and did not work. I have not tried nor have I had to push E. She has always been a hard worker and a team leader. She has always enjoyed the competition and the praise she has received from other players and teams.
She does play other sports such and volleyball and basketball, but softball has always been her passion.
My question is WHAT DO I DO? The softball season for our team likely will not start until April or May so there is some time to contemplate. Honestly I do not want her to quit or take a year off, but I want to do what is best for E. I know she may change her mind and want to play but she may not. She did not play fall ball because she wanted time off. Do I tell her she needs to play and if she still wants to quit she can after the season or do I simply leave the decision up to her? Part of the situation that is complicated is she is one of the best players and I am the coach. Many parents want me to coach and I have put a ton of time and energy into this group of girls. Many girls and parents are counting on me and E. If E is not playing I will need to turn the team over to someone else. Advice needed.