My dd wants to play rec with her friends this fall because her tb team isn't playing in that many tournaments. I asked the coach if it was okay, out of respect, but he blind sided me by saying that he was against it and gave very valid reasons. He ultimately said it is our call though. My dd overheard me tell my husband that part and now thinks it is okay to play. However, I feel by allowing her to play, I may upset the coach and we don't want to do that. We respect him and feel he is right. I just don't want to let her down and take all the fun out of this game for her, ya know? What would you do?