As a guy, I like to break things and then fix them (sometimes I just leave them broken. . . oops). I like to build things.
I like to stop and watch big machines moving dirt on a construction project. I like to watch YouTube videos of military things, practical joke things,and magicians - not sure if that last one is guy-specific but I think it is.
Most notably, I often exercise my God-given right to expend only about 500-1,000 words per day. Anybody heard this one? After about 750 words, I just don't have much left to offer. In other words, I'm just not much of a talker. I'm not a social butterfly. Got a problem? Let's fix it, not just talk about it.
Now. . . I completely understand females are social creatures. They need to talk. They need to connect. They need to "feel".
No problem. I think its awesome! I'll never try and change that.
But. . . why does it always seem to be a pre-requisite of a "good" softball player that she's loud? She's always chattering. Coaches--mostly women, but some men--want to hear the girls "talk it up" and "be loud". . . "make some noise!"
This always manifests as a few stronger personality girls on a team yelling at the top of their lungs, "One down! Innies go 1, outies cut 2!". But to nobody in particular. They're just yelling. They're not communicating especially as they're facing home plate so the outfielders can't even hear what they're saying.
But somehow these girls are viewed as the stronger players, the more competent and reliable, higher quality.
I'm not mad about this, just wondering if this drive to be loud and talk it up is mis-directed energy. Why is it so important? Does it really help the game?
Just some thoughts. . . not looking for solutions or arguments.
Edit: Just wondering if I've already used my 750 words for today, just in this post. . . hah!
I like to stop and watch big machines moving dirt on a construction project. I like to watch YouTube videos of military things, practical joke things,and magicians - not sure if that last one is guy-specific but I think it is.
Most notably, I often exercise my God-given right to expend only about 500-1,000 words per day. Anybody heard this one? After about 750 words, I just don't have much left to offer. In other words, I'm just not much of a talker. I'm not a social butterfly. Got a problem? Let's fix it, not just talk about it.
Now. . . I completely understand females are social creatures. They need to talk. They need to connect. They need to "feel".
No problem. I think its awesome! I'll never try and change that.
But. . . why does it always seem to be a pre-requisite of a "good" softball player that she's loud? She's always chattering. Coaches--mostly women, but some men--want to hear the girls "talk it up" and "be loud". . . "make some noise!"
This always manifests as a few stronger personality girls on a team yelling at the top of their lungs, "One down! Innies go 1, outies cut 2!". But to nobody in particular. They're just yelling. They're not communicating especially as they're facing home plate so the outfielders can't even hear what they're saying.
But somehow these girls are viewed as the stronger players, the more competent and reliable, higher quality.
I'm not mad about this, just wondering if this drive to be loud and talk it up is mis-directed energy. Why is it so important? Does it really help the game?
Just some thoughts. . . not looking for solutions or arguments.
Edit: Just wondering if I've already used my 750 words for today, just in this post. . . hah!
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