Sad to say but it has come to the point my DD is lacking in motivation to play softball.
She pitches and it has come to me having to drag her to practice to pitch. Usually she has an excuse or she has "social" things to do. Came to the point last week we had an argument about her lack of motivation, I basically told her she is on her own. I will no longer pester her to throw or to practice hitting. She is old enough to take responsibility for herself.
Along comes with that...pitching lessons are done. If she isnt going to hold up her end, I will no longer invest in pitching lessons. Rule was she had to throw at least 2 days a week. (excluding games). If she doesnt hold up to her end i will no longer hold up to mine.
I also told her she gets what she gets. If you go to tournament and get pounded, its on you and no one else. If one of the younger girls outworks you over the winter and they end up being the #1 HS pitcher over you...its her fault no one else. (she is quite certain this wont happen, but i can easily see it happen if those girls work hard over the winter)
Sad for me cause i see how could she can/could be. Frustrating to say the least. Am i being to hard on her? Or should i just let it go? I just dont want to have her hate the sport I want her to play it because she wants to.
Heard the same thing has happened to many of my friends kids. High aspirations haven't lead to the outcome the parent envisioned as their kid gets older and closer to college.
I have told her you are not doing this for me. She says "she" wants to play college ball. But i would like her to take ownership of it. Am i wrong?
She pitches and it has come to me having to drag her to practice to pitch. Usually she has an excuse or she has "social" things to do. Came to the point last week we had an argument about her lack of motivation, I basically told her she is on her own. I will no longer pester her to throw or to practice hitting. She is old enough to take responsibility for herself.
Along comes with that...pitching lessons are done. If she isnt going to hold up her end, I will no longer invest in pitching lessons. Rule was she had to throw at least 2 days a week. (excluding games). If she doesnt hold up to her end i will no longer hold up to mine.
I also told her she gets what she gets. If you go to tournament and get pounded, its on you and no one else. If one of the younger girls outworks you over the winter and they end up being the #1 HS pitcher over you...its her fault no one else. (she is quite certain this wont happen, but i can easily see it happen if those girls work hard over the winter)
Sad for me cause i see how could she can/could be. Frustrating to say the least. Am i being to hard on her? Or should i just let it go? I just dont want to have her hate the sport I want her to play it because she wants to.
Heard the same thing has happened to many of my friends kids. High aspirations haven't lead to the outcome the parent envisioned as their kid gets older and closer to college.
I have told her you are not doing this for me. She says "she" wants to play college ball. But i would like her to take ownership of it. Am i wrong?
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