- Jan 22, 2011
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For me, winning is when I go to the high school graduations of players I've coached and get to see the strong, confident, young women they have become.
The thing is, you can't just say "oh, you're only _ years old, winning is not important", and then expect them to flip a switch when they get older.
Some girls have no problem with losing, others despise it. I would suspect the ones that despise it, will most likely achieve more in their softball career than those that don't.
I'd be curious to know how kids of various ages would answer. Adults often believe it is their job to tell kids how to feel about winning and losing instead of taking cues from the children and going at their speed.
HS Varsity, 18U if you are going to a Gold or NPF championship, and college.
Still it is about getting better, improving what you do, preparing properly, and letting the wins take care of themselves. I say prepare like a winner, instead. Coaches today think wins are the most important thing at very young ages, and both TB and HS coaches think players are pawns in serving their own egos. Parents seem to think their own pawn will make the team win, and jockey for position. It is an epidemic. When some of the coaches and parents talk or post, there are more "I's" and "me's" in there than ever.