I have a theory for the gallery.
You have a continuum.
On one end, you have TEAM PLAYERS. On the other end, you have COMPETITIVE PLAYERS.
The TEAM PLAYER loves softball because she enjoys being part of the squad, being a teammate. She's unselfish. She'll play where you want her to play, take on any role. She pulls hard for her teammates. She’s not envious. She plays HARD because she doesn't want to let down their teammates and her coaches. She totally gets the idea of playing for something bigger than herself. She is a student of the game – because the game of softball is an art, and it’s interesting and fun. She might be a coach one day so she can teach others the way to play the game and recreate her fun experiences of being on a team. She can be a very good player, but it comes more from duty, loyalty, playing for the greater good, being conscientious in everything she does. She's good at a lot of things. She handles losing philosophically, and if she's sad about it, it is largely because she's sensitive to the feelings of the team as a whole and hurts when they hurt. Her weakness: She doesn't know how to win as well as the COMPETITIVE PLAYER because her mind doesn't work that way. She plays as she is coached, but doesn't think for herself on the field because she lacks that ''How do I get an edge?'' mentality that the COMPETITIVE PLAYER has. The 'relationship' is so important that she'll be unhappy on a winning team is she doesn't fit in.
The COMPETITIVE PLAYER loves softball because she wants to win. She wants to beat you. She wants to be #1. She’s all about the team – as long as she has a key role on it. If not, she’s dissatisfied. She might transfer, bolt, find something better. She is competitive and constantly thinking of ways to beat you. She is an instinctive player. She is more strategic and calculated. She is a student of the game – not because it's an art or because it's fun, but because she wants to find ways to beat you. She might be a coach one day – to feed her thirst for competition. She plays HARD because she wants to win. She might be very good, but it comes from the pure desire to be better than everybody else. She is upset at losing, might take it as a personal affront. Her weaknesses: She doesn't know how to sacrifice for the team because her mind doesn’t work that way. She'll tell the coach she'll play anywhere, but when she doesn't get the place she wanted, she's unhappy. She's so competitive that she becomes envious of teammates who are getting opportunities that she wants. She might even root against them if her favored role on the team is threatened. She often blames the coach for her status on the team.
I realize there are players who posses most of the good qualities of each. Not saying that competitive players are necessarily selfish, or that team players are necessarily not competitive.
But are these characterizations helpful? Do you see players who resemble this? The team player who could be more competitive, or the competitor who could be more team-oriented?
Where do you see your own daughter? Where could she improve?
Which player do you prefer?
You have a continuum.
On one end, you have TEAM PLAYERS. On the other end, you have COMPETITIVE PLAYERS.
The TEAM PLAYER loves softball because she enjoys being part of the squad, being a teammate. She's unselfish. She'll play where you want her to play, take on any role. She pulls hard for her teammates. She’s not envious. She plays HARD because she doesn't want to let down their teammates and her coaches. She totally gets the idea of playing for something bigger than herself. She is a student of the game – because the game of softball is an art, and it’s interesting and fun. She might be a coach one day so she can teach others the way to play the game and recreate her fun experiences of being on a team. She can be a very good player, but it comes more from duty, loyalty, playing for the greater good, being conscientious in everything she does. She's good at a lot of things. She handles losing philosophically, and if she's sad about it, it is largely because she's sensitive to the feelings of the team as a whole and hurts when they hurt. Her weakness: She doesn't know how to win as well as the COMPETITIVE PLAYER because her mind doesn't work that way. She plays as she is coached, but doesn't think for herself on the field because she lacks that ''How do I get an edge?'' mentality that the COMPETITIVE PLAYER has. The 'relationship' is so important that she'll be unhappy on a winning team is she doesn't fit in.
The COMPETITIVE PLAYER loves softball because she wants to win. She wants to beat you. She wants to be #1. She’s all about the team – as long as she has a key role on it. If not, she’s dissatisfied. She might transfer, bolt, find something better. She is competitive and constantly thinking of ways to beat you. She is an instinctive player. She is more strategic and calculated. She is a student of the game – not because it's an art or because it's fun, but because she wants to find ways to beat you. She might be a coach one day – to feed her thirst for competition. She plays HARD because she wants to win. She might be very good, but it comes from the pure desire to be better than everybody else. She is upset at losing, might take it as a personal affront. Her weaknesses: She doesn't know how to sacrifice for the team because her mind doesn’t work that way. She'll tell the coach she'll play anywhere, but when she doesn't get the place she wanted, she's unhappy. She's so competitive that she becomes envious of teammates who are getting opportunities that she wants. She might even root against them if her favored role on the team is threatened. She often blames the coach for her status on the team.
I realize there are players who posses most of the good qualities of each. Not saying that competitive players are necessarily selfish, or that team players are necessarily not competitive.
But are these characterizations helpful? Do you see players who resemble this? The team player who could be more competitive, or the competitor who could be more team-oriented?
Where do you see your own daughter? Where could she improve?
Which player do you prefer?