I lost it with the 12U Coach.

[Ken Krause]

It makes some supposedly grown men feel important to intimidate a bunch of little girls. I tend to find people like this yell all the time because they don't actually know anything about coaching. It's kind of like yelling at someone who doesn't speak English. It's not going to help. If they can't play, they can't play no matter how loudly you yell.

Maybe he should focus on learning the game, and then teaching it. He may find the girls play a lot better.

As for you, I agree with everyone else. Run, don't walk, away from this team. Or better yet, take all the players with you and form your own. Everyone will be better off.

 

[PGSAKen]

Once you get a sliver of doubt and chew on it it becomes poisonous. If you are going as far as to research his behavior and dig up old heartache you need to move on.

Right or wrong as a coach you need to do whats right for you and your daughter and be sure not to spread dissent. let people come to their own conclusions as the human mind is easily persuaded. Teams do not need parents creating drama behind the scenes even if they are completely in the right about their feelings and information. It teaches the girls a negative behavior.

Have you had a sit down and a heart to heart with the coach? Is he burnt out and needs to sit a season out? Is he having a divorce or another tragic life moment? Sociopath is a bit much. based on the definition you personally being the closest to him (AC) would be feel the greatest impact of his "intentional actions to demean and demoralize or injure mentally".

 

[CycloneSoftball22]

Once you get a sliver of doubt and chew on it it becomes poisonous. If you are going as far as to research his behavior and dig up old heartache you need to move on.

Right or wrong as a coach you need to do whats right for you and your daughter and be sure not to spread dissent. let people come to their own conclusions as the human mind is easily persuaded. Teams do not need parents creating drama behind the scenes even if they are completely in the right about their feelings and information. It teaches the girls a negative behavior.

I agree totally. If you truly believe that this situation is not for you and your DD , then just move on. Let all the other parents make their own decisions. Dont try and start a "movement" for a takeover. Also , doing some amateur research and classifying someone as a sociopath is a bit much.

 

[canyonjoe]

Unless you think he can change find another team. As stated above be a dad first.

 

[CoachKevin]

It makes some supposedly grown men feel important to intimidate a bunch of little girls. I tend to find people like this yell all the time because they don't actually know anything about coaching. It's kind of like yelling at someone who doesn't speak English. It's not going to help. If they can't play, they can't play no matter how loudly you yell.

Maybe he should focus on learning the game, and then teaching it. He may find the girls play a lot better.

As for you, I agree with everyone else. Run, don't walk, away from this team. Or better yet, take all the players with you and form your own. Everyone will be better off.

^^^ This^^^

 

[Carsonsig]

If the board wont boot him when he as a team, if the kids vote with their feet and leave, they will have no choice. A lost half a season is better than her quitting softball and being sketched out by sports in general. I would say bounce, tell the other parents your issue, and that nothing is going to change unless they make it happen....

 

[Twistedwhitty]

Me and another AC decided to start another team. I've gotten 5 of our girl's and their parents on board. I've been told he won't step down. So be it.

 

[CoachKevin]

Me and another AC decided to start another team. I've gotten 5 of our girl's and their parents on board. I've been told he won't step down. So be it.

The sweetest will be when your team beats his

 

[JJsqueeze]

Me and another AC decided to start another team. I've gotten 5 of our girl's and their parents on board. I've been told he won't step down. So be it.

Perfect solution. Good job stepping up to make a change.

 

[Twistedwhitty]

Right Kevin! The downside to this whole situation is finding girls in our small community. We have a horrible rec league that has some decent candidates but the parents might be a problem. We shall see. Thanks JJ.