Cannonball
Ex "Expert"
- Feb 25, 2009
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BB just started playing slowpitch softball since a friend's coed team lost a female player and needed someone to finish out the season. It is something she never saw herself doing. So, last week in the DH league, she was 5 for 8 on the night and 7 RBIs. Tonight, first game, 3 for 5 and 3 RBIs. One of the "boys" came up to her after last week's game and basically accused her of playing before since she did so well. Her response was that she only knows one way to play and that is to be competitive at any sport you play. This leads me to another issue.
How are we raising our dds? Here at DFP, I think it is obvious that we have fantastic parents that have a great grasp on the importance of athletics and the total child. A remark was made to BB last week during her team's tryouts from her co coach, who btw is a great guy, and he asked BB if I ever accepted less than the best effort from her. She said no but that she didn't think that on the field she gave less than her best. I think the question could be asked of our DFP dds as well in the classroom. I'm betting that the vast majority of our dds are academically successful. So, then the question is how do we gain balance? That comes from parents who establish the parameters of acceptable behaviors and at the same time trust our dds to run with their competitive nature.
Why I am starting this topic is that I was asked about BB's competitive nature and where it came from. I don't think it can be created by anyone other than the player themselves. However, it can be nurtured. I asked my students to write down 5 quotes to live their lives by and post them on the mirror that they look at every morning. BB's are written on the walls of her apartment in huge letters. All are about winning and competition. Anyway, I thought that I'd start this topic and see how DFP parents have helped their daughters in this regard and any other observations.
Take care,
Darrell
How are we raising our dds? Here at DFP, I think it is obvious that we have fantastic parents that have a great grasp on the importance of athletics and the total child. A remark was made to BB last week during her team's tryouts from her co coach, who btw is a great guy, and he asked BB if I ever accepted less than the best effort from her. She said no but that she didn't think that on the field she gave less than her best. I think the question could be asked of our DFP dds as well in the classroom. I'm betting that the vast majority of our dds are academically successful. So, then the question is how do we gain balance? That comes from parents who establish the parameters of acceptable behaviors and at the same time trust our dds to run with their competitive nature.
Why I am starting this topic is that I was asked about BB's competitive nature and where it came from. I don't think it can be created by anyone other than the player themselves. However, it can be nurtured. I asked my students to write down 5 quotes to live their lives by and post them on the mirror that they look at every morning. BB's are written on the walls of her apartment in huge letters. All are about winning and competition. Anyway, I thought that I'd start this topic and see how DFP parents have helped their daughters in this regard and any other observations.
Take care,
Darrell