SOooo...we have ended our relationship as of this afternoon. Coach called today and basically started with a semi-apology, then he went into he was ready to cut my DD (really me) on Monday but had reconsidered. Then he proceeded to tell me that most of the coaches he had talked with would have made my DD sit the next tournament out because of me. Also, that he had at least 3 to 4 A Class pitchers who couldn't wait to be on his team.
I let him talk, then call DW and the Kid. Decision was made and I called him back and let him know we had decided to part ways to preserve our friendship and that we wished them luck and success. We already have a pickup opportunity this weekend in East Texas with a team that is just fun for the kid to play with. Picked up with them in the past and they are a blast. Plus they are near the grandparents who never get to see her play.
I don't understand how someone can think it is OK to talk with 12-13 y/o's that way. There was definitely a remedy that could have made it work. I apologized till I was red in the face, but I guess he couldn't help but make comments to make us know that we were expendable. We will be fine. Just chalk it up to experience.
It's a small softball world after all. Not going to go have a drink with the guy and sing karaoke, but the org is very good, is close, and gets kids recruited to D1's/P5's. Even though she is only 13, that is her ultimate goal and I will do what I have to, to support her. I don't want to burn the bridge today that could cause her not the have an opportunity in 2 or 3 years. I have a feeling he burned it, but I won't.Wow. Even with air conditioning, it appears that this guy is delusional. Anyone who behaves as you describe and not only isn't contrite but talks about punishing your kid is someone you need to put in the rear-view mirror. Not sure what basis for friendship exists there, but you may be more forgiving than I am. In this team's case, you're ahead of the curve...it won't last if the coach continues on that course.
The HC doesn't know enough about batting to fill a thimble.During the last game, HC starts yelling at the dugout that the next player who pulls her head on a swing
he started yelling at the umps about how horrible they were,
then he told the team to not pick up a single piece of trash in the dugout since this tournament was so bad.
"basically we suck and don't deserve to practice next week so no practices."
I'm a bad parent because I didn't observe the 24hr policy, he's right but then he berated me for ever questioning his coaching.
This pretty much sums it up!This a 12U-B team? Holy ****.
The HC doesn't know enough about batting to fill a thimble.
Berating a guy/gal making less than $15.00 an hour? Sounds like he would berate the server at McDonald's if he doesn't get two packets of ketchup.
A kid with bad manners is a disgrace to his/her parents. A team with bad manners is a disgrace to the coach and the community.
Honestly, that would have been it for me. Teaching kids not to pickup after themselves?
The coach went from "clueless" to "world class stupid".
Good coaches take notes during the game, and then work on problems at practice.
You are not a bad a parent...but, you aren't very smart. You are wasting your time and energy on this 5-star loser.
Spend your time and energy finding a new team for your DD, rather than listening to this pea-brain.
No, you're not wrong. Just the fact that a coach would cancel practice because a team isn't good tells me that the coach isn't worth much. The coach's job is to teach and to correct mistakes. Further, berating you for questioning his coaching is far too arrogant. I had a parent who was brand new to the sport question how I ran practice a season ago. I've been at it successfully for several decades and had some excellent coaches myself to learn from, so I have a good idea how to do things, but I listened respectfully and then explained why I do things the way I do. We didn't completely agree, but I took his suggestions seriously and compromised a bit since it wasn't a major disagreement and it's always worth trying something different. A coach is never too old, experienced, or successful to learn or to try different things. An arrogant know it all coach is a bad coach.OK, I try really hard not to be that parent. I let the coach coach and support my DD as much as I can. We have never had a problem with a coach like this in the past and I need someone to pull me back if I'm out of line.
Here's the situation. We went out of town to play some different teams this past weekend. We are classified as a B-Class team (USSSA) and played a B-Class tournament. Ended up finishing 4th out of 17 and only 2 bracket loses were to the the teams that finished 1st (6-5 loss) and 2nd (3-2 loss in ITB).
During the last game, HC starts yelling at the dugout that the next player who pulls her head on a swing will earn the team a sprints every time they do it and then looked straight at my DD and said if you have another half swing the team gets one too. (her pervious at bat, with 2 strikes, she got fooled on a CU that was a strike and was able to recover enough to punch it foul in the most ugly way possible).
Immediately after game ended, he started yelling at the umps about how horrible they were, then he told the team to not pick up a single piece of trash in the dugout since this tournament was so bad.
Then the player meeting. He pulled the team WAY away from the parents, but we could still hear his raised voice from 150 feet away. I just left the DW to get the kid and I went to load the car cause I wasn't too happy and didn't want to be around when it ended. While loading the car, I see DD and DW walking up and I ask DD how the meeting when. She said, "basically we suck and don't deserve to practice next week so no practices."
Just then coach walks by. I'm hot I admit and ask him if he told the girls that. He said I would never tell them that. My reply was, may not be the words you used, but that what they heard. Realized this was not the place or time and walked away.
Have since had 2 phone conversations with him, he called me both times and neither went well. I'm a bad parent because I didn't observe the 24hr policy, he's right but then he berated me for ever questioning his coaching.
If I'm in the wrong, please tell me. I will go knock on his door tonight and apologize, but I just don't know. This isn't everything from the weekend, but enough to get the idea. Talked to a parent and have heard thru DW that a parent/coach are of the same thought.