I know this may be an odd topic, but just looking for any feedback from those of you that have gone thru this with one of your kids. My youngest DD is in the 8th grade and she is the "easiest" of my two daughters. Im not sure if it is because she is getting older and can express herself better, but she has been telling me that she thinks she has anxiety issues. In talking with her I think it is more that just feeling nervous about situations.
She is a straight A student, has a lot of friends, involved in activities, etc. This year one of her teachers told me she thought my daughter "worried" about her grades too much. I am starting to see this as well in her actions. For example, she had a game Friday night and after the game when we got home she went to her room with her book bag. I asked her what she was doing and she said her homework. Now again, this is a Friday night and they are on Spring Break for a week as well. I said don't you want to do that later and just relax…she said no she wanted to do it now.
I don't know where she gets it from because I would surely have blown it off and so would her older sister. As far as playing softball….she said she feels the anxiety coming on in certain situations of the game. She said it happened when she was on third base and the coach told her to be ready to steal home. She is a pitcher, but she says she never feels anxious when pitching which I thought was strange. I do not get on her for errors or walks, etc. I only speak to her about mental errors that she might make during a game. As far as grades go I never say anything to her except I am proud of her so I don't feel like I am putting a lot of pressure on her.
Both of my children do live in a divorce situation and it has been that way since she was about 5. She is with me about 5-6 days a week and her mother about 1-2 days a week. This is mostly because of softball, lessons, travel, etc. I have read some articles and sites online, but I would like to hear from anyone out there that has more knowledge than me on this topic. Thanks!
She is a straight A student, has a lot of friends, involved in activities, etc. This year one of her teachers told me she thought my daughter "worried" about her grades too much. I am starting to see this as well in her actions. For example, she had a game Friday night and after the game when we got home she went to her room with her book bag. I asked her what she was doing and she said her homework. Now again, this is a Friday night and they are on Spring Break for a week as well. I said don't you want to do that later and just relax…she said no she wanted to do it now.
I don't know where she gets it from because I would surely have blown it off and so would her older sister. As far as playing softball….she said she feels the anxiety coming on in certain situations of the game. She said it happened when she was on third base and the coach told her to be ready to steal home. She is a pitcher, but she says she never feels anxious when pitching which I thought was strange. I do not get on her for errors or walks, etc. I only speak to her about mental errors that she might make during a game. As far as grades go I never say anything to her except I am proud of her so I don't feel like I am putting a lot of pressure on her.
Both of my children do live in a divorce situation and it has been that way since she was about 5. She is with me about 5-6 days a week and her mother about 1-2 days a week. This is mostly because of softball, lessons, travel, etc. I have read some articles and sites online, but I would like to hear from anyone out there that has more knowledge than me on this topic. Thanks!
