Gladwell's book Outliers took a long look at this -- not necessarily in the holding back, but in the idea that kids are often competing with others who are significantly more developed mentally and physically than their peers based on age groupings and birthdays. It's an odd thing we do to put...
If you are making a collegiate decision based on softball, please reconsider. It is not a profession.
In most cases, whatever scholarship money that comes from softball can come from somewhere else. The unfortunate truth about sports scholarships is that a lot of smaller schools used them as...
Also, when looking at nursing programs, make sure the school has a program on campus, which means they have an affiliated hospital nearby. One of the thing we learned is that a lot of schools claim to have nursing programs, but the nursing school is actually somewhere else. Kansas's is in Kansas...
Right now it looks like nursing, but she's 18, so who knows? I think she mostly wanted to be a part of something. And the tour guide made the best pitch I've ever heard "Do you want to go to class, or do you want to go to college?" She decided she wanted to go to college. Now every other phrase...
My beloved Gators for a couple of early breaks in game 3, and then Rochard and VT just collapsed. We'll take the win, but that was as much about VT not being tough enough as it was about what we did. UF got them flustered early -- those first inning errors really got in their heads, and then...
My Beloved Gators are hitting for a change. They are a very good defensive team, and Skylar Wallace is a beast. OU will kill us, and it wouldn't surprise me to see us go 0-2, but I think they'll win a couple this time and be playing on Saturday.
As for the rest of the SEC, I was surprised to...
My daughter is a senior, headed off to college in the fall. She's not playing college ball, and has been a pretty average B pitcher on a pretty bad B team for years -- they play 18U now. She's loved her coaches and her teammates (for the most part) and she likes playing the games.
Last season...
Big picture perspective here:
DD is graduating in four months. This time next year she'll be living in a state far away.
Don't let something like her unwillingness to practice as much as you want her to practice become an ISSUE. it's a game; the payoffs are all internal. Either she'll decide...
I wasn't trying to say a lack of empathy was a bad thing on its face, but not having experienced a situation makes it easier to dismiss the feelings/experiences of those who have.
For example, I think that most people on this board have kids who are stars. They are very involved and can quote...
Wasn't a time given, DD reached out Friday afternoon, after her teammates asked her to come back.
As for the other stuff, the basics are this -- coach berated Dd for 10 minutes, insulting her intelligence and cognitive abilities. DD came home devastated. Was going to let it go, but two other...
You'd have a point, but you overlooked the part where the coach told them they could have until Friday to decide, two of them did say they were coming back by Friday, and the coach ignored their texts saying so over the weekend (despite the coach saying that was the best way to contact her)...
Except that “better players” is in the eyes of the coach. I doubt there are many cases of coaches doing anything but that, but “better” is subjective. I just happen to think seniority —leadership and loyalty — factors into that “better” equation than most people here do.
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You can have whatever opinions you want. What you can't have is empathy, because it's not something you've ever been through. You're projecting your experience into a situation you only understand part of.
If you've never had someone jerk around or hurt your kid, you don't know what it's like...
So you have no concept of what the OP is talking about. It doesn't apply to you -- my guess is it doesn't apply to most of the people here who are preaching best 9 and all-knowing coaches' eyes. This is a forum for parents of girls who are stars and rarely sit, much less get benched, who always...